Wise Advice from the Great Spheenx
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Wise Advice from the Great Spheenx
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Posted 2024-04-29 10:57:37
It's incredibly easy to let others opinions about you get into your head. It hurts sometimes. But here is a reminder— They are not you. Different versions of you exist in other people's heads. But good or bad, the only one who knows yourself is YOU. You know your own secrets, your own worries, your own concerns. You are in control of yourself, and nobody else. You define yourself. Not other people. When people share what they think about you, they do not know your entire life. They don't know anything about what you've gone through or what your actual thoughts are. And really, would you take an opinion from someone who doesn't even actually know you? I sure hope not. Never take advice from people who you wouldn't ask for advice to begin with. |
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Posted 2024-08-08 14:42:38 (edited)
when i tell you, i've literally verbatim said these exact words to my friends who have fears of their image being sullied or perceived in a way that is simply incorrect or fabricated by other parties, i have literally said, "no one is you, only you know who you are and no one else will ever fully understand you" like it is so reassuring to hear that there's other people out there who understand this complex it makes me so sad to see my people direct their energy to attempting to dismantle other peoples opinions and views of them- it is futile; and typically the people who are creating these narratives of them are people who are of no consequence. the amount of times i've stressed that 'your greatest power is that no one is you' to people, gosh hahaha i don't think people understand what i mean when i say it! because this idea of 'no one being you' is such a double edged sword, right- 'no one is you' therefore no one will ever understand you fully no matter how much you try to exhaust your views or correct someones image of you; you can never convince someone of anything. it is totally discouraging i'm sure, and can feel so isolating. but from my perspective, the fact that no one is me and no one will ever truly understand what i mean when i speak or my actions is such a freeing feeling when i was younger i felt very ruled by how others perceived me (i feel that most women can relate to this), it wasn't until a handful of years ago where i guess i just woke tf up and was like o.o why tf would i care what people who don't even know me think of me hahahahaa it was the most freeing, liberating relief to no longer be controlled by my mind and the things that were out of my control i appreciate this post a lot because you are the first person i've come across who has voiced this complex/idea! i've found some solidarity and relatability on this concept that i have never heard anyone directly express before other than myself! thank you so much for that! |
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